My 3 Words • 2018

by Ray Reuter on January 18, 2018

a life unfettered … Here are My 3 Words for 2018

  • ABIDE … to bear patiently, to endure without yielding, to wait for, to accept without objection. I find myself in a place where ABIDING is prudent given several situations and circumstances that are real, even though they are not of my doing.
  • MERCY … compassionate treatment of those in distress; compassion or forbearance shown especially to one subject to one’s power; refraining from the enforcement of something that is due. I believe this coming year will provide me multiple opportunities to exercise MERCY.
  • PERSEVERE … continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition. As I ABIDE and show MERCY, it is clear to me that I also must PERSEVERE in using my gifts and talents to unfetter potential.

NOTE: To understand the context of this post, please check out 3 Words to Guide Your Year.

Those words are my beacon for 2018. Your turn …


Catching Flak

by Ray Reuter on January 11, 2018

“Flak” is defined as anti-aircraft guns and the bursting shells fired from those guns. In other words … noise, opposition, criticism, resistance, objections.

I’ve read that if a bomber is not catching flak, the pilot of the plane knows they are either in the wrong place or the enemy has moved. Thus, flak is to be expected! Flak is actually a positive sign that you are in the right place, engaging the appropriate enemy / challenges. If you are not encountering some flak, you may not be “on mission.”

I don’t believe this means that there are not moments of peace, calm, and “rest.” After all, bombers went out, completed their mission, and then hopefully returned “home” to safety and security. What it means to me is that I want to properly manage my expectations as I begin any activity. I anticipate and am ready for some “flak” — embracing opposition knowing that I am right where I should be, doing what I should be doing. And then safely returning back to base to get ready for another run.


3 Words to Guide Your Year • 2018

January 4, 2018

In 2014 I adopted the annual exercise of coming up with Just 3 Words for the year. “Just 3 Words” provide a compass, a way to keep yourself on the path of your choosing. The start of a new year and recommitting to live a life unfettered is a perfect time to set one’s focus and direction. This approach […]

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unfettered thoughts volume 1

December 31, 2017

HAPPY NEW YEAR! A special announcement just in time for the new year! unfettered thoughts — the Book! — now exists. Volume 1 is printed and ready for distribution. It contains over 150 posts from the past. If you are interested in purchasing one for yourself or to give as a gift to others or […]

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Looking … Looking … Looking … There You Are!

December 28, 2017

This holiday season brought with it the usual grandchildren’s Christmas programs. Jude’s pre-school class came out first and lined up. Every child was looking … looking … looking … for their parents, grandparents, family members. They all had a look of consternation and fear … where are they?! And then, when they connected with their […]

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Have To • Get To • Choose To

December 21, 2017

I like to challenge people when I hear them say … “have to.” Because honestly, there is little that we truly “have to” do. There is little that is “necessary for survival” — which is what “have to” means. This applies to my self-talk as well when I say “have to.” Am I being honest […]

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8 P’s

December 14, 2017

I had a high school teacher, Bernie Wallace, who always preached 7 P’s … PRIOR PLANNING PREVENTS PRETTY POOR PERFORMANCE POSITIVELY Those words of wisdom stuck with me for almost 40 years and counting. Assuming you desire to do your very best, to perform at your peak, to get the most out of life … […]

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“Papa” – the Magic Word

December 7, 2017

One of the most pleasant sounds in my life is one of my grandchildren calling out, “Papa!” And with 11 grandchildren, I get to hear it often! ツ It confirms they know me, need me, generally want something from me. I will unpack this a bit … They KNOW me. They know I am present, […]

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November 30, 2017

God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: I AM has sent me to you.’” (Exodus 3:14) Often times, I / we make God more complex than He is. Moses stands on holy ground and encounters the presence of God in a burning bush. […]

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Hungry Wolves

November 16, 2017

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson […]

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